|—||Meghan Murphy (No, “female-appreciation” is not the same thing as feminism)|
When you grow up with stigma, people tell you a lot of well-meaning things that actually cause problems. When you face people treating you like you’re less of a person, someone will often say something like:
- "You’ll prove them all wrong some day".
- "It’s ok. You’ll show them. You’ll prove that you’re better than they ever could have imagined."
And then, when you accomplish things, it often becomes, “Well, you proved them wrong, didn’t you?”People who say this often mean well, but this is a form of victim-blaming, and it can hurt people who believe it really badly. The truth is:You didn’t prove them wrong. You never had to prove them wrong. They were already wrong.Prejudice is not something you have to earn your way out of. Dehumanization isn’t your fault. You don’t have to prove that you are human in order to be human. You don’t have to have amazing accomplishments in order to prove that you have worth. Everyone has worth. People who don’t recognize yours have always been wrong.You didn’t prove them wrong. They were already wrong. About you, and about everyone else too.You might have to fight to be seen as a person. You might have to fight for your life and your safety and for basic respect. That’s a fight you may or may not win. It’s a fight that, no matter how hard you try or how good you are, you will never win all the way. There will still be those who hate you and see you as subhuman.But you can be ok, anyway. You’re ok. You’re whole. You deserve better. It’s not your fault they don’t see it. It’s theirs.You have always been a full person, fully deserving of respect and equal treatment. People who treat you as a lesser being have always been wrong.Knowing that helps.
Alt-text from XKCD: “I can’t remember where I heard this, but someone once said that defending a position by citing free speech is sort of the ultimate concession; you’re saying that the most compelling thing you can say for your position is that it’s not literally illegal to express.”
When I say people want to see more diversity in stories, no, I really don’t mean different stories about straight white dudes. I really, really don’t mean that at all. This isn’t about types of stories being told. This is specifically about people. I’m not letting you make this about something else. You are not hijacking this message to make sure we’re still talking about straight white dudes.
When you suck at something you’re supposed to be good at
I’m sick of this idea that if you are white, you won’t be subject to violence or murder.
Let’s just debunk this right now with facts, using your own source (which isn’t properly cited btw). It’s like you didn’t even read the reports.
Anywho, this is all according to the 135-page document that is the 2008 report on Victimization in the United States.
As you can see in the first table, whites commit more single-offender violent crimes per year, as would be expected when we take the size of the population into consideration.
However, as shown in the second table, the white-black and black-white offender-victim percentages are about on par with one another. But again, given the sheer population of whites in the country, that still means more violent crimes against blacks occur every year.
Let’s also not forget that you’re more likely to fall victim to a violent crime at the hands of someone you already know.
Violent crimes in which the victim was white: 67.4%
Violent crimes in which the victim was black: 15.9%
Violent crimes in which the victim was white: 15.4%
Violent crimes in which the victim was black: 64.7%
So I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I call bullshit.
U.S. Department of Justice (2010). Criminal victimization in the united states, 2008 statistical tables. Retrieved from http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cvus08.pdf
Shanesha Taylor was arrested on March 20th by the Scottsdale Police for leaving her children ages 2 and 6 months in her car while she interviewed for a job. Ms. Taylor was homeless and could not access any child care. Her desperation to provide for herself and her children and her lack of options led her to take drastic measures in search of employment. Ms. Taylor needs support & help rather than incarceration and a criminal record that will surely decrease her chances to provide for her children in the future. We ask that Maricopa County use common-sense and provide support for Ms. Taylor and her children rather than punishment.
Shanesha Taylor is still in jail pending a $9,000 bond.
Help drop the child abuse charges against Shanesha Taylor by signing this petition at change.org. Here’s the link: http://www.change.org/petitions/bill-montgomery-drop-the-child-abuse-charges-against-shanesha-taylor?recruiter=13739587&utm_campaign=twitter_link_action_box&utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=share_petition